Girl, Date the Good Guy ™ | Healing After Heartbreak & A Toxic Relationship

Another breakup. Another broken heart. Another night wondering why love keeps hurting.
But what if the heartbreak you're experiencing is revealing pain that began long before this relationship?
Whether you're healing after a toxic relationship, divorce, betrayal, or a painful breakup, the wound may go deeper than the person who hurt you.
In this episode of Girl, Date the Good Guy, Christian mentor and relationship coach Emily Jordan explores why healing isn't always about getting over the latest heartbreak. It's about allowing God to reach the whole heart.
Through biblical teaching from Proverbs 4:23, Romans 12:2, and John 4, Emily shares how our experiences can shape what we believe about ourselves, why surviving isn't the same as healing, and how God's grace invites us to bring our pain into the light.
Plus, a special announcement!
The manuscript for Emily's upcoming 21-day emergency rescue guide for the broken heart is officially finished!
Get a first glimpse into the healing journey, including Code Blue, Morning and Night Rounds, guided prayers, and a 90-day outpatient plan.
One question to take with you: What has this heartbreak made me believe about myself?
Scriptures: Proverbs 4:23; Romans 12:2; Ephesians 2:8–9; John 4; Psalm 34:18.
This is your Holy Rescue. 🤍
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Girl, sis, listen to me for a minute — if you’ve ever prayed for a man to change, fallen for his potential, or wondered whether he’s truly into you or just likes having you around, this episode is your wake-up call. Emily walks you through eight distinct types of men— from the toxic potential guy to the wolf in sheep’s clothing—using raw honesty, scripture, and hard-won wisdom so you can see the relationship for what it really is, not the fantasy you want it to be.
This short, powerful conversation mixes storytelling and real-life confession, urging you to slow down, seek God’s wisdom, and reclaim your worth. Grab your coffee, settle in, and get ready to recognize patterns, set boundaries, and choose a partnership built on truth, consistency, and faith.
This is your Holy Rescue. 🤍
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Hey sis—join Emily as she pulls back the curtain on modern dating, trading internet checklists for hard-won spiritual discernment. From two failed marriages and counterfeit loves to a God-sent confirmation that changed everything, she shares a raw, prophetic journey of grief, grace, and awakening.
Through vivid stories and scripture-rooted wisdom, Emily exposes the tricks of toxic patterns—why "dating potential" can become a trap, how to spot fruit over flash, and what it looks like to wait, pray, and heal instead of hustling for a relationship. This episode is a slow-burning invitation to trade panic for prayer, games for growth, and confusion for clarity.
Whether you're dating, waiting, or married, listen for practical truths about boundaries, responsibility, and emotional safety—and stay for the promise: God’s best is worth the wait. Sign up for the newsletter to follow Emily’s upcoming book and keep walking toward holy, healed love.
This is your Holy Rescue. 🤍
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I don't think I've ever told you the whole story.
I've shared pieces of my life here and there—the heartbreak, the toxic relationship, the waiting, the surrender, the Holy Pause, and the healing.
But I've never sat down and told you how it all started.
So today, I'm telling you the story I wasn't ready to tell before.
I grew up in the Mormon church and spent the first 18 years of my life living inside a very structured world. The day after I graduated high school, I left home ready to experience freedom—and I ran straight into the world.
Drinking. Partying. Wrong crowds. Relationships. Situationships. Searching for something I couldn't quite name.
I tried college twice while working full-time, opened businesses that failed, experienced heartbreak and setbacks, and spent years trying to build a life on my own strength.
Then my sister told me about Jesus.
And slowly, God began taking me on a journey I never could have planned.
I share about my first marriage, the toxic relationship that followed, the years of difficult co-parenting, and the season that nearly broke me.
Then I take you to 2016—the year I had a dream that God was telling me to die to my flesh.
Shortly afterward, I walked to my mailbox and found a dried-up branch sitting beautifully on top of it.
When I picked it up, God brought John 15:5 to my heart:
“I am the vine; you are the branches… apart from me you can do nothing.”
At that point, I was completely broke and standing in a season of stripping.
And suddenly, I understood.
I couldn't keep trying to be my own source.
I needed the Vine.
That moment became part of the beginning of a completely different life.
A life of surrender.
A life of waiting.
A life of learning who God really was—not just what religion had taught me.
And eventually, after years of waiting and walking with God, came another unexpected chapter: finding my middle-school crush again after more than a decade.
But even that story wasn't simply about finding a man.
God had been preparing me.
And when He eventually asked me to lay that relationship at the altar too, I learned that even something beautiful has to belong to Him first.
This episode is my story of running, heartbreak, brokenness, surrender, waiting, restoration, and discovering that God had never stopped pursuing me.
And if you're listening from your own messy chapter, I hope you hear this:
Your story isn't over.
Maybe you've run from God.
Maybe you've made choices you're not proud of.
Maybe you've been through a toxic relationship.
Maybe you've lost years.
Maybe you're sitting in the middle of a heartbreak wondering how God could possibly make something beautiful out of what you've been through.
Girl…
He can.
Because if He can take my story and redeem it, He can do something with yours too.
You don't have to have it all figured out.
You don't have to clean yourself up before you come to God.
Come as you are.
He knows exactly where you are.
And He knows how to find you there.
In This Episode
Growing up in the Mormon church and leaving home after high school
Running toward the world and searching for something I couldn't find
Discovering Jesus through my sister
My first marriage and realizing it wasn't what God had for me
The toxic relationship that followed and the heartbreak that came with it
Years of difficult co-parenting and learning to keep going
Trying to build businesses and a life on my own—and watching it all fall apart
The 2016 dream that changed the direction of my life
The dried branch on my mailbox and John 15:5
What it meant to finally stop trying to be my own source
Years of surrender, waiting, loneliness, and spiritual growth
The freedom God brought in 2025
Finding my middle-school crush again after more than a decade
Why God asked me to lay that relationship at the altar
What I've learned about God's grace, restoration, and redemption
A message of hope for the woman who thinks her story is already too broken
Scripture
John 15:5“I am the vine; you are the branches… apart from me you can do nothing.”
Isaiah 61:3God gives “beauty for ashes.”
If You're in Your Own Holy Rescue
If you're in the middle of heartbreak, a breakup, a toxic relationship, or simply wondering what God is doing with your life right now, I want you to know this:
God is not finished writing your story.
Your past doesn't get the final word.
Your mistakes don't get the final word.
Your heartbreak doesn't get the final word.
Jesus does.
And sometimes the greatest rescue isn't God changing your circumstances.
Sometimes it's God changing you in the middle of them.
This is your Holy Rescue. 🤍
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What happens when you finally stop forcing things to happen?
When you stop trying to make the relationship work, force the door open, control the outcome, or figure out every detail of what comes next?
What if that's the moment you finally start seeing what God has been doing all along?
In this episode of Girl, Date the Good Guy, Emily talks about the divine alignment she's experiencing in her own life after a season of healing, surrender, obedience, and waiting on God.
For so long, she thought she had to make things happen.
But God began showing her something different:
If you have to force it, you may be trying to carry something God never asked you to carry.
Emily shares the moment God highlighted the word FORCE for her and how that revelation has changed the way she looks at relationships, opportunities, timing, and the future.
This isn't about sitting around doing nothing.
It's about learning the difference between moving with God and trying to get ahead of Him.
And if you're sitting in heartbreak, coming out of a toxic relationship, recovering from a breakup, or wondering why your life isn't unfolding the way you thought it would...
I want you to hear this:
Your current season is not the end of your story.
You don't have to force the next chapter.
You don't have to chase what God has for you.
You don't have to have every detail figured out before you take the next step.
Sometimes faith looks like opening your hands and saying,
"God, You have the pen. I'll trust You with the story."
Because when you stop forcing it, something beautiful can happen.
You begin to see what God was already putting into place.
You begin to recognize His timing.
And sometimes...
you realize you weren't watching your life fall apart.
You were watching it come into alignment.
This is your Holy Rescue. 🤍
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Fear can keep you stuck in places God is trying to pull you out of.
In this episode, Emily gets real about the role fear played in her own life—from living in a toxic relationship and being afraid of what would happen if she left, to finally surrendering her fear to God and taking the steps He was asking her to take.
Leaving didn't mean everything instantly became easy. There was uncertainty, financial pressure, anxiety, loss, and a whole lot of learning how to trust God one step at a time.
And even after getting out, Emily discovered that leaving the toxic situation was only the beginning. The trauma, fear, suspicion, control, and survival patterns still needed to be healed.
This is a conversation about what happens when fear follows you into your next season—and why God doesn't just want to change your circumstances. He wants to heal the places inside of you that were shaped by what you've survived.
If you're sitting in heartbreak, coming out of a toxic relationship, afraid to start over, or wondering what you're supposed to do next, this episode is for you.
You don't have to see the whole staircase.
You just have to trust God with the next step.
In this episode, we talk about:
How fear can keep you trapped in toxic relationships
The fear of leaving and the fear of the unknown
Learning to surrender fear to God
Taking a leap of faith when you don't have everything figured out
Why leaving a toxic relationship doesn't automatically mean you're healed
How trauma can follow you into new relationships
The importance of healing before stepping into something new
God's protection, provision, and guidance
Why you don't have to figure out your entire future today
What it looks like to trust God with your next step
Finding hope after heartbreak and toxic relationships
If you're in immediate danger or preparing to leave an abusive relationship, please seek trusted support and make a safety plan. You don't have to do it alone.
This is your Holy Rescue. 🤍
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What if the man you've been praying for doesn't look exactly like the man you pictured?
What if you've been asking God for a perfect man… when He may be teaching you how to recognize a good man?
Sis, this one is personal for me.
Because I was demanding a perfect man when God gave me a good man.
A man with a heart of gold.
And I had to let God deal with my expectations, my checklist, and my idea of what a man of God was supposed to look like.
In this episode of Girl, Date the Good Guy, we're talking about the lie of perfection in relationships—and what happens when you stop looking for a finished product and start paying attention to posture over perfection.
Because a good man doesn't have to have everything figured out.
He can still be learning.
He can still be growing.
He can still be becoming.
The question isn't whether he's perfect.
The question is:
What's his posture toward God?
Is he teachable?
Is he willing to grow?
Does he want to know Jesus more?
Does he take responsibility?
Is he moving toward Christ?
And here's the part we don't always want to hear…
You don't get to demand a finished man while you're still allowing God to work on you.
Maybe God isn't just using the relationship to grow him.
Maybe He's growing you, too.
In this episode, we're talking about:
Why perfection is an impossible standard
The difference between a good man and a perfect man
Why posture matters more than perfection
Why “unfinished” doesn't automatically mean “wrong”
How to recognize a man who is genuinely willing to grow
Why you shouldn't date potential—but also shouldn't reject someone simply because he's still growing
How God can use relationships to sharpen and grow us
What it looks like to surrender your checklist to God
Why we need to stop expecting relationships to make us happy and start asking how God may be using them to make us holy
And the very real possibility that the woman asking God for a perfect man may still have some growing of her own to do. 😂
And yes…
there may be a little coffee talk in this one. ☕😂
Because sometimes growth looks like realizing you don't need a perfect man.
You just need a good man with a heart that's turned toward God.
And personally?
I can't wait to make this man coffee every morning.
Black?
A little sugar?
Creamer?
Anything for you! 😂
Holy Reflection
Ask yourself:
Have I been rejecting imperfect people because I actually expect perfection?
Am I looking at someone's heart and direction, or am I looking at my checklist?
And one more:
Am I willing to let God work on me just as much as I'm asking Him to work on the person I'm praying for?
This is your Holy Rescue. 🤍
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What if God is asking you to move… but you don't feel ready?
What if you're standing at the bottom of the staircase, asking God to turn on every light so you can see exactly where you're going?
Sis… that's not how faith works.
In this episode of Girl, Date the Good Guy, we're talking about what it really looks like to trust God when you don't have the whole plan.
We start with Psalm 37:4 and the desires of our hearts—and why delighting in God isn't about treating Him like a genie who gives us everything we want. When we fully surrender our lives to Christ and walk with Him, He begins transforming our hearts and aligning our desires with His.
And that's where faith comes in.
Because sometimes God doesn't give you the whole staircase.
He gives you the next step.
I'll share what I've been learning about having what I call “crazy faith”—including moments when God has asked me to move, release things, and prepare for what's next without knowing exactly how everything would come together.
We'll talk about:
Why faith doesn't require you to see the whole picture
Why surrender has to come before the step
What Psalm 37:4 really means about the desires of your heart
How God begins to align our desires with His as we walk with Him
The difference between faith and certainty
Why being afraid doesn't mean you don't have faith
What Abraham teaches us about going without knowing where you're going
Why faith eventually requires movement
What to do when God says “go” before you feel ready
Why you shouldn't let fear become your GPS
How faith applies to your love life, singleness, waiting, and relationships
Why you don't need the whole love story to obey God today
How to recognize and take your next step
And maybe the biggest question of all:
What if the thing you're afraid to step into is actually the place God is taking you?
You don't need to see the whole staircase.
You just need to trust the One who's leading you.
Scriptures Mentioned
Psalm 37:4Jeremiah 29:11–13Proverbs 3:5–6John 15:7Hebrews 11:1Hebrews 11:8
Holy Reflection
Take some time this week and ask yourself:
What step have I been afraid to take because I don't know what happens after it?
Have I truly surrendered the outcome to God?
What is God asking me to do next?
Not step seven.
Not the whole staircase.
Just the next step.
This is your Holy Rescue. 🤍
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What if letting go isn’t giving up on love?
What if sometimes, it’s the very thing God uses to teach you what love really is?
Sis, there’s a difference between holding on because God told you to—and holding on because you’re afraid to release what you want.
In this episode of Girl, Date the Good Guy, we’re talking about the uncomfortable truth of Holy Love: sometimes love requires surrender. Not chasing. Not forcing. Not manipulating the outcome. Not trying to make something happen before God’s timing.
Sometimes, you have to open your hand and trust God with what—or who—you’ve been holding so tightly.
We’ll talk about what it really means to love someone without losing yourself, how surrender can reveal what’s actually yours to carry, and why letting go doesn’t always mean the end. Sometimes, it simply means getting out of God’s way.
Because Holy Love doesn’t require you to abandon your standards, your peace, or your relationship with God just to keep someone.
Scripture:“Commit your way to the Lord; trust in him and he will do this.” — Psalm 37:5
So grab your coffee, sis, and come sit with me in your Holy Space.
This is your Holy Rescue.
In this episode, we’ll talk about:
The difference between surrendering and giving up
Why love cannot be built on chasing or control
What happens when you release someone to God
How Holy Love protects your peace and your standards
Why sometimes the most loving thing you can do is let go
Holy Reflection
What am I still holding onto that God is asking me to place back in His hands?
This is your Holy Rescue. 🤍
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What if the reason you can't recognize good love… isn't because something is wrong with him?
What if your past is still speaking louder than what's happening right in front of you?
Sis, let's talk about it.
When you've been through a toxic relationship, betrayal, manipulation, heartbreak, or repeated disappointment, it can change the way you see love. You learn to look for the red flag. You question people's motives. You wait for the other shoe to drop.
And sometimes, without even realizing it, you can start looking at a good guy through the lens of a bad relationship.
I know this because I've lived it.
In this episode, I'm getting real about what God has been showing me during my Holy Pause—including the uncomfortable realization that I had been carrying old wounds, expectations, suspicion, and survival patterns into something God was showing me differently.
Sometimes healing isn't just about getting over the person who hurt you.
Sometimes healing is about learning how to see again.
We're talking about:
How toxic relationships can change the way you see love
Why heartbreak can make you suspicious of healthy relationships
The difference between discernment and fear
How trauma from your past can affect the way you receive a good man
What happens when God asks you to surrender something you desperately want
The battle of the wills and learning to surrender control to God
What it means to lay something at the altar and trust God with the outcome
Facing the parts of yourself that still need healing
Why God sometimes has to heal you before you're ready to hold what you've been praying for
Learning to release expectations, control, and the need to fix everything
Why you don't have to understand God's process to trust Him
And we're getting into the real question:
What if God brings you good love… but your past has trained you to expect bad love?
Because sis, you don't want to spend your life making a good man pay for what a bad one did.
You don't want your heartbreak to become your identity.
And you don't want your trauma to become your discernment.
There is healing available.
There is peace on the other side of surrender.
And sometimes God has to heal the lens before you can clearly see what's standing in front of you.
📖 Scripture
Proverbs 3:5–6
“Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding…”
Sometimes you don't get the explanation first.
Sometimes you get the invitation to trust.
This is your Holy Rescue. 🤍
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